Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Relationships involve people. Individuals. Human souls.

I've been looking through some of my old blog posts and some unrelated memories are coming back that make me... I'm actually having trouble finding the words to describe what I'm feeling.
I guess that I'm bummed. Not quite sad, because I know that all things are in God's hands, so there are very few things that I am able to regret, but still, I can't help wondering what would have happened if I hadn't been so stupid so often.
I can't help wondering how much my actions affected specific people, even actions that were thought through but not thoroughly. I know that I hurt people, I treated them like phases or seasons instead of like individuals, but did I mess with more than just feelings? If I had known and not been so stubborn would we still be friends? If I had chosen the other side in a grey area would everyone be better off for it? Did I stunt the spiritual growth of a friend because I was a bad example when it mattered the very most? Did I split friends up because I didn't have the grace to understand how some people change? How I change? How life changes? 
I know that I can't do anything about it now, but for what it's worth, I'm sorry that it took me so long to see that I don't value people as much as they're worth. I never even had the decency to thank you for all the time you put into my life. I say that pointedly and specifically to anyone who has ever felt that they got a cold shoulder from me and don't know that it was more than a shoulder, but my very heart.
I really am very truly sorry.
-Samia
(R.H.)

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